A step by step system to handle her criticism effectively, feel better and move on. When your ex wife says mean things it can start to break you down. What happened to the woman you married? Are the things she’s saying true? In this video I’ll show you how to handle criticism from your ex wife, both during and after your divorce.
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I’m Rachael. I help men get through divorce and rebuild who they are to get healthy, get happy and move on with confidence.
That is what this channel is all about. I’ll show you how to handle intense and painful emotions, unravel what went wrong in your marriage (and heal those wounds) and build a clear roadmap for success in future relationships.
What makes me different from other coaches & therapists?
I don’t waste your time with affirmations, communication skills or changing bad habits. I go deep. To the root cause of your problems. I’m not scared of your emotions. And I don’t cling to a single approach or technique. I help you discover what works for you, because above all else, I believe in you.
You are not broken.
And you certainly aren’t the man your ex describes.
You have good intentions. You want stability. You want love and passion. You want to be seen for who you are. You want to stop pretending and still be desired and loved. It’s all possible. I know, I’ve seen it happen.
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DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.
When your ex wife is mean, it hurts. My clients often ask me, “Why is my ex wife so mean? What happened to her? Am I as bad as she says I am?” When your ex wife says mean things it can trigger self doubt and anxiety. So how should you handle it?
The secret to handling criticism from your ex (or from anyone else!) is to recognize that your response isn’t actually about her. She isn’t causing your anxiety, fear, sadness or pain. There is something happening inside of you, some underlying emotion that hasn’t been processed that is making the criticism from your ex wife so painful.
Learning how to handle criticism from your ex wife means taking a deep look inside so you can begin taking responsibility for your reaction. What are you feeling? This simple question isn’t so simple! It can be difficult to connect with how you feel, because those feelings are often painful. If talking to your ex wife is bringing up grief, anger or pain, you probably want to avoid those emotions.
Once you identify the emotion, you want to hone in on the cue that triggers it. In this case, it may be talking to your ex wife! Maybe it’s criticism from your ex that sets you off. Can you get even more specific? Is it the tone of voice she uses that triggers your emotion? Or a phrase or word that is upsetting? Maybe it’s her body language or facial expression.
I know you’d rather just get your ex wife to stop being so cruel and critical. And yes, that would be the easy way out! However, her criticism is actually just the trigger for your response. It isn’t the cause. Avoiding the trigger is a temporary fix, but it doesn’t solve the underlying issue, which is your unhealed, unprocessed and lingering emotional pain. Think of your ex wife’s criticism as an opportunity – a way to find those injured parts and heal them so that you can enjoy happier relationships in the future.
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